Have you had a recent breakup and you are having a hard time getting over your broken heart? When you are resilient, it means that you are finding strength inside of yourself to move forward. This can be hard after a breakup, especially when you think that you will spend your whole life with the person you love.
You will grieve and you will have to choose if you want to stay in the place of sadness and heartbreak or if you want to move forward. If you choose to move forward, remember, you can find love again.
This will never be easy and when you have been with someone that you thought was the one for you, it can be hard to even think about love again. You will have memories and thoughts of them, and you will worry about putting yourself in a place where you can be rejected again. It will be hard to trust someone new and to connect with someone that you do not even know that well.
Finding love can be fun and exciting and does not have to be so scary. You just need a plan and need to be open minded. This is the same as finding a new job or making a plan to go on a trip. If you don’t have a plan, chances are you will struggle along the way and find yourself in the same situation. Here are some things you need to do to find love after breakup:
Get Rid of Ex
Once your relationship is over, you need to let go of your ex and move forward. If you have stuff of theirs, get rid of it. Do not be afraid to show your true feelings and to say that you are sad about your breakup but know that you have to get your ex off of your mind.
If you have negative feelings about your breakup such as resentment or unforgiveness, you have to let these feelings go.
You have to stop hiding your feelings and learn to deal with them. Stop sleeping around or turning to bad habits such as drinking or eating to get over your feelings.
Do not avoid or suppress your feelings but let them come out. Figure out where they are coming from and let the get through so you can deal with them.
Stop going to places that you and your partner went to and find new things to do such as take a gym class or go to college.
Find people to hang out with that will not judge you but will want to listen to you and help you through your hurt. Explore your feelings and find people or support groups to talk to.
People have more than one soulmate. Just because you broke up with this person doesn’t mean your love life is over.
There are more people out there that can help you to find happiness and make you feel wanted.
If you haven’t yet found your soulmate, you will find them, and you have to let the universe know that out are ready to meet your soulmate. There are multiple people you will meet over your life, get out there and find them.
Stop comparing people you want to date with your ex. You do not have to find someone that is exactly the opposite of your ex. Find someone that makes you smile and someone that has the same interests in things that you do.
Do not base your relationships on your ex but on what you are looking for. Just because they might have some of the same traits as your ex does not mean they will break your heart.
Values and Beliefs
Know what you want and what you are looking for in life. Find someone that has the same values and beliefs that you have. If you do not share in these things, it can be hard to have a good relationship.
Find ways that you can meet someone that you do not clash with and do not compromise on your values. Find someone that shares these things with you and wants to move forward with you.
Do not waste time on someone you know you are not compatible with. If you want to go out with someone again, say yes but if you don’t, say no. Do not be afraid to hurt someone’s feelings.
Stop wasting your time and learn to say no to people when you want to. Do not feel bad if you date someone and you know they are not the person for you.
Be honest and compassion and align your feelings with what you want. Do not compromise or give in because you are afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. This can be healthy so that you can move forward and find someone you do like.
Learn to better yourself and work on who you are. Find your values and beliefs and tell who you are seeing about your feelings.
If you need to talk about things like having children or money, do it. Do not be afraid to say what you need in bed and know what you want.
If you do not share your feelings, then it is your own fault that you are with someone that you are not meant to be with. Be confident in who you are so you can find true love.
Work Who You Are
When you are ready to date someone new, go out and find someone. Do not sit around your house and never meet anyone new. No one is going to show up in your living room.
Go out and find love. Put yourself out there. Do not be afraid of searching. Go to places where you can meet people that have the same interests as you.
If you want to find love, you have to meet new people. This can be scary, but you are brave, and you can make things work for you. Put effort in meeting someone.
Stop obsessing about love and breakup and learn to find something healthy in your life. Be confident in who you are and be clear on your wants and values.
Improve yourself and be who you are. If you worry about being alone for ever and you are desperate then chances are you are not ready to date yet. When you do find the special person and you have worked on you, you will see that your relationship can be beautiful.
If you have yet to find the love of your life, do not give up and keep putting yourself out there until you meet your perfect mate.